Why a professional dominant?

Thanks to the unfortunate success of Fifty Shades of Grey, the Internet has exploded with "keyboard doms" looking to show off online but unable to step up when it matters--and, much more unfortunately, men with cruel and abusive impulses who use D/s as a cover for what they have always wanted to do to other  people. 


On the other hand, many experienced doms in the kink community are not conventionally attractive or socially adjusted enough for most mainstream women who identify as subs. (I am above-average-looking and in my late 30's; photo available at my discretion after you have established contact.)


An experienced dominant who will actually listen and adapt to your needs is vanishingly rare already, let alone one who is anything resembling conventionally attractive, and someone operating at my level of experience will have his pick of partners. Choosing  a professional dominant simply means that you would be a priority among them.


What can I do for you?

I am a natural teacher and mentor, and enjoy bringing that kind of energy into our play. I have been nearly every kind of dom to every kind of sub there is in the past 15 years, and I can help you to find a lace in the spectrum wherever it works for you right now. 


If you are past the Kink 101 stage, there's still plenty to do and learn. I enjoy planning custom, completely bespoke adventures for my girls while continuing to train them in the way that only I know how. I am far more interested in the mental aspect of kink than the physical, and will constantly challenge you while also constantly listening and adapting to your needs. Your safety, comfort, and consent mean everything to me and I would never violate the trust you bring into a scene with me.


I am careful to ramp up slowly, especially with play partners who are either completely or mostly new to kink, to be sure of your state of mind and your ability to consent. While you may be able to form these thoughts as you read this, if I have done my job properly you would not be able to for up to an hour even after the scene has finished. I have a complete and comprehensive aftercare routine which has never failed to pull my partners out of subspace and back in into our conscious reality.

What can you do for me?

The unique set of services and experiences that I am ready to offer you can require an enormous amount of time to discuss,  plan, prepare, and carry out--and even more so if you are completely new to kink and still working through the basics of what does and doesn't work for you. To be clear, this is work that I love to do but comes for me at an opportunity cost of doing any number of other things which I might otherwise be doing. 


As such, I require and expect appropriate tribute from you. As the only professional dom in Boston I could set my own rates as high as I'd like, but I would rather keep them  reasonably affordable for those who need the therapeutic value and physical release so often available only through the kind of focused, intentional play which has become my metier.